1. Remove assumptions
“You never respect me” combines an interpretation and a generalisation. For this exercise, replace it with an event you can describe plainly. That does not deny your feelings; it gives the conversation a clear starting point. The character can help rephrase without deciding the intentions of someone who is not present.
2. Prepare a request
A request is clearer when it is observable: “could we choose a time to talk?” is more specific than “make an effort”. Prepare your words and leave room for a response different from the one you hope for. Good preparation does not give you control over the other person’s reaction.
3. Choose the setting
Consider whether the timing works and whether you can pause. If there are threats or violence, the priority is not mastering a communication exercise: seek appropriate human support and a safe setting. For an everyday disagreement, a short sentence and an open question can be enough to begin.
